Clean the Slate
I’ve spent a little time browsing through and reading some posts in an older thread that has been revived. I have also seen and read some threads that are not kind to HSN hosts and others. One host, BTW, deserves IMHO a huge raise for the way he has taken lemons and made lemonade! :smileyhappy: :heart: We could all learn from his fine example of turning the other cheek and keeping things positive.
Being that we are all human it is understandable that we grow bonds with others and tend to stand by those we have grown close to online. Not all, but probably a good number of us, myself included, feel protective of our friends and do not like to see them hurt in any way! That in and of itself is not a bad thing but it can become bad.
There is so much room on the boards that I think it is fair to say that we should all be able to come and go where ever we feel comfortable. To be respectful of one another even if and when we do not agree with one another.
The truth is, everyone that comes here, comes here for a reason. I first came on the boards to thank HSN for a prize I won. That first post led to some great friends and fun adventures. And that was something I really needed at the time. My MIL was very ill and we moved her in with us. I was "on call" 24/7 taking care of her and when I wasn’t sleeping and I had a little "me time" I would escape here. I found others that had or were currently taking care of a loved one.
During my time with my MIL, I learned that she struggled with losing her independence as I struggled with all my new responsibilities as a caretaker.
We learned a lot about one another. She shared things with me that she never shared with anyone else. I learned about her family, her childhood, things she enjoyed during her lifetime and some regrets that she had.
We have one chance in this precious life to do the things we want to do and to become the person we really want/hope to be.
We don’t always get do overs but I believe we always have opportunities to clean the slate and move forward.
That said, and I am finally getting to my point; I know there is a lot of good and wonderful things throughout the HSN Community. There are some really fun and wonderful threads throughout! But with the good also comes the not so good. I just wonder what the Community would be like if HSN "cleaned the slate" and we started all over again?
No more old threads being brought back, check marks or another way of being able to mark posts that we have read. A new way of going up in "ranks" or dropping ranks and possibly allowing things like pictures posting right away based on number of posts and/or lack of reminders to follow the guidelines. Respect for one another’s post, keeping on topic in threads, stating our opinions in a tone that is respectful, remembering that words do matter, etc.
Just a thought!
Hello Star just read your comment. You are right. :smileyhappy:
I was here in 2009 I remember it well. All I can say now is have fun.:smileyhappy:
For what it’s worth: the lifeless stifling forums you see now are the result of cleaning the slate. The slate was cleaned in 2009. It got worse, as Wini pointed out. [edited to say: on a second thought… It was a bit crazy with WSL fans going full Dalek on everybody else… Bit other than that, it well – at the very least, shall we say, it did not get better.]
Do you really think that all the fun lovers will just decide to no longer bully people? I doubt that. Do you think miserable people will stop projecting misery and angry people stop projecting anger on other posters? I doubt that. A vindictive woman will see some sort of malicious motives in every post and a person prone to be angry a lot will read unrelenting anger into other people’s posts.
Well said, Star.
Nothing wrong with your comments at all. Not sure, however, just exactly what you are intending. Without pointing fingers at all, I came back to these boards after several years of being absent. I was – and still am – so very surprised to find very few people here and the topics are just not conducive to getting people to jump in. I tried a couple times to get things going with interpersonal comments and fun but it worked once for a few days and that was that. I also must wonder that the set up of the boards now – so like the Q which has gone a tad astray but they still have some people coming back – is not part of the problem. I also had mentioned and asked what on earth happened to all the great posters that use to be here – they obviously for the most part went elsewhere. These boards use to literally jump and had hundreds of posters most of the day long. Not always "nice" posts but overall a lot of fun.
I believe there will always be those who do not like nor agree with some others – that is life – and am not sure if it ever will be stopped.
I will continue to stop by but rarely post anything as I cannot find anything where I feel I have anything to contribute. Will jump right in if I find a lively and fun thread. Nope, am not interested in games, etc – just like to chat and learn about people.
Posted in Talk Among Yourselves
10.20.15 8:05 PM