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The Negative Effects of Spoiling Children

When children are spoiled we do them a great disservice because they are not being allowed to earn and learn.

Parents are moved by instinct to love, nurture, and provide for their offspring. Because our children are so much a part of us, we want to see them blissfully happy. Also, our own desire to be liked, materialist pressures, and a fervent wish that our children have everything we lacked as youngsters can prompt us to spoil them. However, while it might seem that buying your child expensive gifts will give them fond memories of childhood or that you can heal your emotional wounds by doting on your sons and daughters, you may be unconsciously interfering with your children’s evolutional development. One of the most precious gifts you can grant your children is the true independence they gain when they learn to earn what they covet and become stewards of their own happiness. Try allowing your children to experience life to the fullest. Let them work and earn what they want. When the time comes for them to go to college and enter the workforce, you will have the confidence that you have raised a child that can both enter and contribute to society confidently.

When children are not afforded the opportunity to explore self-reliance, to understand that with possession comes price, and to fulfill their own needs, they develop a sense of entitlement that blinds them to the necessity of hard work and the needs of others. We may spoil children because giving them gifts is pleasurable. Or we may want to avoid conflict out of fear that our children won’t love us. Yet children who are given acceptance, love, and affection in abundance are often kinder, more charitable, and more responsible than those whose parents accede to their every material demand. They develop a strong sense of self that stretches beyond possessions and the approval of their peers, and as adults they understand that each individual is responsible for building the life they desire. If you find yourself giving in to your child’s every whim, ask yourself why. You may discover that you are trying to answer for what you feel is lacking in your own life.

Rearing your children to respect the value of money and self-sufficiency as they grow from infants to young adults is a challenging but rewarding process. It can be difficult to watch a child struggle to meet a personal goal yet wonderful to be by their side as they achieve it. Your choice not to spoil your children will bless you with more opportunities to show them understanding and compassion and to be fully present with them as they journey toward adulthood. AMEN! ✨✨

@kittengirl,

Good morning in Cali Kitten be safe and have a great day. ✨😘

@shoelady60,

Good afternoon in the ‘burgh. ✨I cannot believe we almost near the 4th of July. 😎✨
Time is passing and fast.

Yep, I am a spice girl and I love the smell of cinnamon and nutmeg in pies. I don’t like
a lot of sugar. Here is a slice of life. 😘Believe it or not I am eating a fresh peach right
now I brought some this weekend this is straight from Georgia. 😎✨

I hope your sister have a wonderful and safe time in Chicago. 😘I know you will miss her.

Blowing a kiss to Jake’s Canvas and to you too you are just peachy keen. ✨

@taci,

Good morning in S. California I am wishing you a safe and cool day. 😎✨😘
All is well in the Summerland of OZ.

Happy Trails To You. 🎶🎶

@oodiebom,

Good day on the Gulf Coast. ✨😎Oodie enjoy the much needed rain. I do hope you
get a rainbow.

Be very careful as you try to get things organized. Oodie are you going to call Spectrum
to finish updating their system?

Oz is doing great today we are at 80 degrees right now. Last evening was wonderful
hubby and I just sat outdoors on the Patio and we watched Poppy run to the fence line
and play with his playmates Nora and Pepper. ✨😘We had a nice breeze I have the most
beautiful Umbrella that I brought last year and it was well worth it this Umbrella can tilt
and it covers a lot of areas. 😘✨😎It was nice just to drink Ice Tea and do nothing.

@xango,

Good afternoon in Florida and I am so glad you got lots of rain. 😎😜
I am sure the plants and flowers enjoyed all of the good lord’s glory.

I am loving all the little bunnies they are so cute.😘✨ I put some baby carrots 🥕
out for them in a discreet place for them. I hope it some more just gentle drops.

@defg,

Good afternoon in Maryland have a safe and cool day with hubby. 😎✨

@ddshoppy,

Good morning in S. California enjoy this special time in Summerland. 😎✨

@loaf,

Good morning in your neck of the woods. I hope you are enjoying Summerland.
Pretty sure your hubby is doing all the BBQ. 😎✨😘 Wishing you and the kids
a nice and safe week.

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