Conversation – 17

Imposing Your Will Upon Others

When we impose our will onto others, we are telling them we want to control and leave them without a true voice.

The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply critical of themselves in their own minds, and underlying that critical nature is unhappiness. Their need to feel sure-footed and secure is quenched by controlling those around them, whether they are friends, colleagues, or even pets. However, nearly everyone has found themselves imposing their will upon others at one time or another.

Trying to impose your will on others can be tempting for many reasons. You may feel that your way is the best way or that you have a keener insight into the direction their life should be taking. But, in imposing your will, you are indirectly saying, “I want to control you.” Thus, even when you have the best of intentions, others may end up resenting you for your actions. It is always helpful to remember that it is possible to influence people and change their behavior through education or example without imposing your will on them.

If you’ve caught yourself being a bit bossy on a regular basis, make a note of it. Write down what the situation was and why you acted the way you did. You may have pushed a friend to try something new, because deep inside you wanted to try it yourself but were feeling hesitant. Or you may be unjustly interfering with work teammates because you aren’t sure of their abilities. Next, make an effort to understand and accept their preferences and ways of doing things. It can feel natural to impose your will when you feel that you “know best.” But there is a freedom to trusting others to find their own methods and joys, even when they might differ from yours. Sometimes the best course of action is to step back and relinquish control. You may, in doing so, see everything from a different point of view. AMEN! ✨✨

@kittengirl,

Thinking of you Kitten have a great week. ✨✨

@shoelady60,

Good day in the ‘burgh. 😎✨ Wishing you a nice day. I hope you are enjoying your
Hockey Games. I am still checking up on my nephew who has Covid-19 he is only 17 years
old and getting to graduate and go to prom. So far so good. I think he will be safe to do
all the things Seniors graduating like to do.

Enjoy your family tomorrow and have fun. 😘Thanks for your note on me visiting my mother
and family I miss them so much.

Blowing a kiss at you and Jake’s Canvas. 😘

@taci,

Good morning in S. California Taci I hope everything is going well for you. ✨😎
I know you are missing your mother I know the feeling as I am still missing my dad. 🌹💕

Enjoy a nice long hike and the view along the way. Hey Happy Trails To You. ✨

Did you receive your Heidi Daus Earrings yet?

This wabbit is having some fun. 😎

@oodiebom,

Good afternoon on the Gulf Coast. ✨😘😎Glad you had a good Doctor’s Appointment
yesterday. ✨ I am feeling better today and you were right there was some lawn mowing
in the neighborhood we also had an Alert Day. I will mask up if I go out again.

Oodie wishing you a good day. I am praying your husband comes through with his
surgery and I understand how you feel. I would be the same way with my husband.

Try not to do too much we are very warm in OZ. 😎😘

Having a little fun with the wabbits. 😘😎✨

@xango,

Good afternoon in Sunny Florida. ✨😘😎I am feeling alright today. Oz is warm and we have
some sun. The pollen count is high.

Hey I am turning the telly off no good news what so ever. I can’t do what I want until later
in the day when the pollen count is down. I hope your day is going well. I am going to do
this Rice Water and I will let you know how it goes.

@defg,

Good afternoon in Maryland you may be resting now if so have a great day when you
are up. ✨😎Oz is very warm today.

@ddshoppy,

Good morning in S. California I do hope this is a good week for you. D you had a lot of
celebrating last week. How are your grandchildren doing?

@loaf,

Good day in the Rock and Roll City. 😘✨😎Very warm day here in OZ.
I am alright with that. How are the kids? Loaf hope you had a great Mother’s Day.

HSN Iris Apfel hello beautiful. ✨