Conversation – 16

Being Hard On Ourselves

When we are hard on ourselves, we send our bodies the message that we are not good enough.

One of the key components of human consciousness that most of us need to address and change is our tendency to be hard on ourselves. We do this in ways that are both overt and subtle, and half the work sometimes is recognizing that we are doing it at all. For example, if we find it difficult to graciously accept compliments, this is probably a sign that we tend to be hard on ourselves. Other ways in which we express this tendency include never feeling satisfied with a job well done, always wanting to be and do better, and getting mad at ourselves for getting sick. Getting mad at ourselves at all indicates that we need to rescue ourselves from our learned ability to be unkind to ourselves.

In essence, when we are hard on ourselves, we send our bodies the message that we are not good enough. Whenever we do this, we do damage that will need to be addressed later, and we sap our systems of much-needed energy. Being hard on ourselves is a waste of precious time and energy that we could use in positive ways. To begin to understand how this works, we can think about times when someone made us feel that we weren’t good enough. Even just thinking about it will create an effect in our bodies that doesn’t feel good. We may be used to the feeling, but when we really tune into it, we instinctively know that it is not good for us on any level.

Like any bad habit, being hard on ourselves can be a challenging one to release, but the more we feel the burden it places on us, the more motivated we will be to change. At first, just noticing when we are doing it and how it makes us feel is enough. As our awareness increases, our innate impulse toward health and well-being will be activated, moving us out of danger and into a more positive and more natural relationship with ourselves. 😎🌹

@kittengirl,

Good Morning in California. Please be safe and well. Sending kitty hugs.

Kitten you are still in our prayers never forget that. 🌹

Cherie,

@shoelady60,

Good afternoon in the beautiful ‘burgh. 😎If you are going to the graduation I hope you
have a good time. How is your mother and sister doing? Hope your weather is cooler. 😘

Hey I get my second vaccine in a few days I wanted t know if I should get the second shot
in the same arm or switch arms. Curious if you know. 😎 We have that awful variant here.

I will still mask up and keep hands clean. I do get out and go out I am not locked in.
I want to enjoy life and as soon as this vaccine do it’s thing I am off to Colorado. 😘💕
Thank god I can see and talk to my mother and family nothing beats being there nothing.

I miss Jake I miss hearing you talk about him. Blowing kisses to Jake Canvas. 😘

Enjoy this with a good book. 😘😎🌹

@71flowerchild,

Howdy in Texas you are missed from this thread. Please be well and give the fur babies
a nice cool OZ pet. 😘

@taci,

Good Morning in S. California. How are you today? Taci I am remembering your mother. 🌹
I hope you are cool today and if you had a hike I hope you enjoyed it. Wow! I feel you can
walk I know I can but I think you have me beat. 🤣 Did you get your necklace from last
week? I do hope you like it. 💕

Taci next month will be a strange one for me it will be exactly one year since my father
passed. Very somber month for me.

Oz is beautiful today I sat on the Patio early this morning and I wait for the butterfly 🦋
he always comes to me I think when I need him the most is when he comes. 💕

Hope this is a safe and good day for you and hubby. 😘

Keeping it cool Cali Style. 😎

@oodiebom,

Good day and I hope you and hubby are in the wind. 😘😎💕I will keep an eye on you
until you are safely in the North. Safe travels my dear friend.😘 We will all be on pins
and needles just waiting to see how you are.

I know not your first day at the Rodeo. 🤣Just thinking of you and hoping you enjoy the
ride and the view. 💕

@ddshoppy,

Good morning in sunny S. California. 😎😘Enjoy this day and please stay safe and cool.

@defg,

Good day in Maryland I did read and respond to your post. 😎I hope this is a good day
for you and hubby. Oz is very pretty today. 💕 Get your beauty rest and have a safe day.

@loaf,

Good Morning in Ohio to you and family miss ya like crazy. 😘🌹Stay safe and cool.

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