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@taci,

Picture Cool Hand Luke and Paul Newman build and that smile that is my husband. 😘💕
Thank you for thinking of me. I held off talking about it because I was still grief-stricken
from losing my dad just two months earlier. One other thing my husband was very
close to his brother who passed three weeks before my dad and my dad and him were
very close. Everything is back to normal so I am moving forward. What a crazy year.

@oodiebom,

I share so much I was trying to give everyone a break from certain news. I have never
been so scared in my life and so were our children. Oodie what gets me is in the ER they
would not let me sit with him due to Covid-19. I had to go to a different floor with open
space and I sat there for seven hours. I talked to my husband on our Iphones. The children
and I FaceTime. Oh they had to run a Covid-19 Test on him before being admitted and
especially before the procedure. You are right about one thing this would not have been
possible 20 years ago. Oodie they did not cut my husband anywhere. The doctor’s did
everything through his wrist and that is why he recovered fast.

My husband is a Jock. Hubby can swim and dive, ride a high speed bike, skate backwards,
he is very agile and athletic he loves the outdoors. 😎I could not believe after surgery
they would not let me stay with him so I came home and played trivia with you. Oodie
seems like things always happen on Friday for me. I am thankful for this year as it has
taught me a lot. God never gives you more than you can bear. 😘😎🌹

Club Sheba

@sheba2011

Dear Sheba, it must have been intuition that day last month. Thank the Lord your husband is well and flourishing. I will tell you why I had that intuition and that we are sisters in crime and punishment!

I know exactly what you went through. Almost six years ago, my husband was getting intermittent chest pains. I made him see the PCP and she admitted him into the hospital for testing. Not much happened until they did a catherization. This was late afternoon and I was told it would take about an hour. After 20 minutes, the cath doctor came to see me in the waiting room, informed me that my husband had 90% blockage in his left main artery (the widowmaker) and that they wanted to do surgery now. I was told to call someone to be with me during this operation which really scared me. I felt like I was on an episode of ER or Grey’s Anatomy. They took me in this tiny room where about eight people/doctors were hooking lines and machines up to my husband and off we went to the OR. As we are walking through the halls, some guy had the nerve to ask me if I had any questions. I was so upset that all I could think of was how long is this going to take.

This was an evening surgery and it took about 2-1/2 hours. He had double bypass and the surgeon told me he was very lucky. If he would have had a heart attack at least half of his heart would have been dead. I was allowed to give him a kiss at about 10:00pm (he was still out) and left. Up all night paying bills, canceling a trip, sending emails to family/friends. It is amazing what you can get done at 4:00am with no interruptions!

I was so scared to go in the next morning – would he be moaning and groaning in pain, ashy, etc. He was sitting up in a chair and had already walked in the hallway. Like your husband, everyone was shocked and said not him, he’s in good shape. Thank goodness he was because he might have been dead but he kept his heart and body strong with exercise.

Sorry for this encyclopedia but I wanted you to know I completely understand your feelings and you and hubby have twins in the ‘burgh! Huge hugs and kisses to you both!!💕💗💖

Sheba, Wanted to wish you and all the posters here a Safe and Healthy Thanksgiving!
Then I read some of your posts. Let me say how I am so happy to hear your husband is doing well and recovered. This must have been so difficult with everything else going on. Can we just say you’ve had a year.

I’ve been busy with an annual thing I help with and it’s almost done. My Mother said 4 people at her place have Covid now, up from 2.

Here’s to ringing in the new year and leaving 2020 behind.

@sheba2011

Sheba, my heart goes out to you. Thank goodness your husband is strong and does exercise which is good for the heart and surrounding tissues and muscles. If he hadn’t been working in the yard or walking around who knows what could have happened. Maybe, now when you walk Poppy you should also walk hubby. I just wish you would have vented this sooner so we could have been there for you. Glad that the doctors and surgeons were able to repair the vessels and now he is feeling better than ever. The world of medicine is forever changing. Just think, less than 20 years ago this would not have been possible. You, the employees at work and the physician worked as a team and within 24-48 hours after he was able to walk out (Ok albeit, wheelchair ride) of the hospital and then driving around town. You really have something to be thankful for on this Thanksgiving Day.

We also went out for a bit to pick up last minute items. Could not wait to get back. Would you believe I couldn’t find my stuffing. There was none anywhere so I will be making mine from scratch which is OK. I will be making the turkey with all the fixings tomorrow just for the two of us. My entire family will be staying home as well. They are listening to the precautions. I was also surprised that there was very little traffic. Now I think I will rest up before tackling any jobs.

To All in the HSN Community. 😘🌹😎

@oodiebom,

Sleep Apnea and he has a C-Pap Machine. 😎😘

Creating Connections While Apart

If you are apart from your family, you can decide upon a reminder together, and create a simple ceremony of connection that defies any distance.

Life’s journeys may sometimes take us away from our families and friends, but there are many ways to stay connected. Aside from making use of the technology available–speaking on the phone or seeing each other from across cyberspace–we can create simple ceremonies using nature and our own thoughts to connect our hearts across the miles.

The first step in creating your ceremony is to look to nature for similarities in the different surroundings. The second step is agreeing upon something that is meaningful to all involved. If your mother loves birds, then perhaps each time you hear a bird chirp, you can think of her and mentally send love. You may choose the sight of a butterfly, the feel of a breeze or raindrops, or the scent of flowers to remind you of a special someone. The pink glow of sunset might be your favorite time to send a thought, or perhaps the warming oranges of sunrise. We can all see the sun, the moon, and an array of twinkling stars when we look to the skies. The monthly full moon may be your time to connect with your loved ones, or the first star you see each night, knowing that they, too, are gazing into the night sky and sending love. You could choose a day that you would usually celebrate together, such as a holiday or a solstice. If you once shared Sunday brunches in the garden, you can each seek out a garden on Sundays. Or you can choose a specific time and account for the time difference in order to connect by heart and mind at exactly the same moment.

With practice, we may learn to recognize the feeling that comes when a loved one sends energy our way, and the feeling of soul-to-soul communication. In this case, distance may indeed make our connections stronger. There is certainly much to make us think of our close friends and loved ones often, but when we decide upon a reminder together, we create a simple ceremony of connection that defies any distance.

@kittengirl,

You are in our hearts and on our minds during this difficult time. Sending kitty hugs. 😘🌹

Cherie,

Good Morning in S. Cali I hope you and the family have a safe Thanksgiving.

@shoelady60,

Good Afternoon in the burgh. 😘💕I will give Poppy a slice of turkey no bone.
I want to wish you, your mom and sister and of course hubby a nice and safe
Thanksgiving. 😘Most of all let Jake smell all that wonderful food. 💕

You were absolutely right about something last month on this thread.
Remember the day you asked if something was wrong because I half finished
the thread. Well your instincts were kicking in. My husband had a Heart Attack on
that day and I had to leave. It was on a Thursday they would not let me stay with him
in the ER. I thank god we have a world class hospital near us. To make a long story
short hubby is doing fine after a heart procedure. I have say it was a lonely three days.
I did not know what to say to anyone I keep in touch with our children and our family.
I have a large family. 😘 I decided to share this once he was out of the woods and he is
doing great. This man weighs 138 pounds of pure muscles and hubby have a fantastic
body. This seems to be genic so some changes are in order. Hubby has been doing
yard work and than some plus he is a workaholic. In other words he needs to slow down.

Happy Thanksgiving I have my paper from the Breast Center and it is a joy and relief.

All I can say is what a year. I could not re-do this year ever!! I am so thankful to god for
everything and for all the support I have received from all the girls on this thread. 😘

@71flowerchild,

Good Afternoon in Texas. Happy Thanksgiving and we are all blessed to be here.
Sending cool OZ hugs to Jewell and Little D I am sure they can smell the good eats. 😘

I wrote to Oodie and I am going to tell you last month my husband had a heart attack.
Hubby spent three days in the hospital with a heart procedure. Took 2 weeks off to enjoy
life. Hubby was driving and doing things a day after his release. We are thankful he
had no pain or shortness of breath. Everything turned out fine I was a mess. No one will
ever know what that was like and I hope they never do.

So I have a lot to be grateful for. I will miss my dad but I am moving forward.