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Importance Of Forgiveness

In order to forgive, we need to stop identifying ourselves with the suffering that was caused to us.

When someone has hurt us, consciously or unconsciously, one of the most difficult things we have to face in resolving the situation is the act of forgiveness. Sometimes it feels like it’s easier not to forgive and that the answer is to simply cut the person in question out of our lives. In some cases, ending the relationship may be the right thing to do, but even in that case, we will only be free if we have truly forgiven. If we harbor bitterness in our hearts against anyone, we only hurt ourselves because we are the ones harboring the bitterness. Choosing to forgive is choosing to alleviate ourselves of that burden, choosing to be free of the past, and choosing not to perceive ourselves as victims.

One of the reasons that forgiveness can be so challenging is that we feel we are condoning the actions of the person who caused our suffering, but this is a misunderstanding of what is required. In order to forgive, we simply need to get to a place where we are ready to stop identifying ourselves with the suffering that was caused us. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, and our forgiveness of others is an extension of our readiness to let go of our own pain. Getting to this point begins with fully accepting what has happened. Through this acceptance, we allow ourselves to feel and process our emotions.

It can be helpful to articulate our feelings in writing over a period of days or even weeks. As we allow ourselves to say what we need to say and ask for what we need to heal, we will find that this changes each day. It may be confusing, but it is a sign of progress. At times we may feel as if we are slogging uphill through dense mud and thick trees, getting nowhere. If we keep going, however, we will reach a summit and see clearly that we are finally free of the past. From here, we recognize that suffering comes from suffering, and compassion for those who have hurt us naturally arises, enhancing our new perspective. 😎🌹

@kittengirl,

You can do this in California. I hope you have your grandson this is something
he would enjoy you too. Sending kitty hugs to you all. 🌹

Cherie,

Take care in S. California. Thinking of you and the kids 😘😎💕I do hope your mother
is doing well. 🌹

Cherie you have three very young children let them have soup. 😎

@shoelady60,

Good Afternoon in the ‘burgh. 😘💕I do hope you are feeling much better today.

The Game yesterday was insane they are keeping an eye on Patrick.

How is your husband doing today I know Covid-19 is a day to day thing. My SIL
is still under the weather with Covid-19 she is at home in her bed she is eating
and walking around. This thing is no joke.

I am on the phone checking on our kids and my mother and siblings. 💕😘
We are in the 30’s here in OZ no biggie I still plan to take another long walk
with Poppy I don’t see any people in my way. 🤣 Give Jake a nice OZ hug from
Poppy and I. 🤣😘 You take good care of yourself. Sending a Monday Shout Out to
your mom and sister and I am so happy she is there with your mother. 💕

Here is some soup for a good way to start the week. I am making stew in my
slow cooker. 💕😘😎

@71flowerchild,

Thinking of you and the fur babies and praying all is well in Texas. 😘💕

@taci,

Good Morning in AZ Taci I do hope everything is alright in AZ with your mom.
I know you are busy just drop a line when you can. 😘💕Be well my friend.

@bichon18,

Good Afternoon in Florida. Amy I hope you and Jerry were able to get your Covid-19
Vaccine yesterday. I know it was daunting to have to go through so many changes. 🌹😎

If you were able to get it just relax. Amy I wish you could bake one of your famous
Key Lime Pies. 😘🤣 Give Little Ari a chilly OZ hug and pets and hug to Chloe. 🤣

@oodiebom,

Good afternoon and I do hope you are feeling better. This is your birthday week
I just hope you were able to enjoy it. 😘💕😎🌹

Here is some tea please take it easy today.

@loaf,

Good Morning in Ohio. Here’s to a safe and good week for you and your family. 😘💕😎

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