Conversation – 16

Why We Lash Out

It is human nature to sometimes lash out at others, but we can learn to navigate our feelings without losing our center.

Each one of us has experienced situations where we’ve found ourselves lashing out at someone without meaning to. We later berate ourselves for losing control and feel guilty for treating the other person badly. And while it is human nature that our emotions and moods will get the better of us from time to time, we can learn to navigate our feelings and negotiate difficult situations without losing our center.

Often, when we lash out, it is because we are having a difficult time containing the emotions that are coming up inside of us. We may be feeling overwhelmed, afraid, frustrated, stressed out, or angry. Having these feelings boiling up inside of us can be very uncomfortable, and it is natural to want to release them. But when we release our feelings from our body by directing them outward and toward someone else, they inevitably impact the “innocent bystander” to whom we are directing this energy. They not only get the brunt of our anger, frustration, or stress, but also they can actually experience this energy as a physical force hitting their bodies.

When you find yourself in a situation where you are about to lash out at the person in front of you, try to center yourself by breathing slowly and deeply. A few slow inhales and exhales can help dissipate the intensity of your feelings before they escape you. Later, when you find yourself in a more reflective state, sit down for a moment; recall the feelings in your body just before and during your outburst; note where you feel sensations coming up in your body; and ask yourself if they are connected to any core issue or experience from your life. If nothing comes to mind, then revisit the situation again, exaggerating the details of what happened by indulging in outlandish “what if” fantasies. Exaggerating events after the fact can help expose the unconscious subtext behind your heated response. Understanding the motivation behind your reactions can help you avoid lashing out again when a similar situation comes up. In learning to navigate around your emotions, you are giving yourself the tools to feel better the next time your emotions start to boil. In doing so, you will be taking care of yourself by alleviating your own uncomfortable feelings while respecting and protecting those around you. AMEN 😎 Think about it. 😘

@kittengirl,

Morning in California wishing you a safe and cool day. Kitten thinking of you and your
grandson I hope you have been spending time with him. Give the cats a nice warm OZ
pet. 🌹

Cherie,

Good morning in S. California enjoy your summer with your three children miss ya. 😘😎

Here is a nice smoothie that you and your husband enjoy every morning. 😘🌹💕

@xango,

Good day they do not have children but they do have family. 💕🌹 I don’t like the fact
Oodie is alone. I saw your question they are in Savannah.

Oodie will check in later on this thread and maybe the Trivia Thread I am keeping track
of everything she post she is awaiting the results of her husband tests.

Xango are you in Florida or California? Keep those prayers up. 😘

@shoelady60,

Good day in the beautiful ‘burgh. 💕😘How are you doing today? Are your projects done
for now? When we finished one project another jumps up. Shizzle never a break in OZ. 🤣

Just rest and stay cool. Keep Jake close to your heart. 😘💕🌹 Poppy is wagging his tail
at you. 😘

I am very concerned about about both Oddie and her husband I hate she is alone.
That is how my father started with a stroke several mini strokes so this is close to home
for me. 🌹

Enjoy the day I am fighting a sinus headache.

I am trying to stay as normal as possible I wonder if that is possible. 😎

Good Afternoon Sheba, I hope this day 8s going well for you and your family. I did read Oodiebom’s post. I am hoping the two of them will soon be able to leave the hospital. I don’t know if they have children and or other family members that could come down to lend a hand. I am sending lots of prayers to all.

@71flowerchild,

Just be safe and cool in Texas or New Mexico send a warm OZ pet to the fur babies. 🌹

@taci,

Good morning in S. California make it a good one. Taci I did read your post from last night.
Sorry about your necklace. Taci I too hope it is not pneumonia that Mr. Oodie have.

Taci how are you doing? I know your mother is still on your mind. In a few short weeks it
will be a year since I lost my father so these days are tender to me. 🌹

My father was only 79 when he passed and that is way too soon. I miss him every single
day. 😘💕I know you miss your mother too. 💕🌹 Life is precious. 🌹

@oodiebom,

Good day in Georgia we are all here praying for you and hubby how are you today?
I don’t want you to worry have you contacted any of your family?

I feel helpless I went to sleep praying for you both. Please let us know how things are
today I did read your post from last night. 💕😘🌹 Make sure you eat well and get some
much needed rest I just hate you are alone in this.

Here is some Ice Tea no sugar with Manuka Honey. 😘💕

@defg,

Good day in Maryland and hope you and hubby are doing well. Thank you for your
prayers to Oodiebom. My heart goes out to her and her husband. She stays on my mind.

@xango,

Good Morning thank you for asking about Oodiebom I hope to hear from her again today.
When the time is right as she has to get secure Wifi in the Hospital. Seems her hubby had
a mild stroke and may have other issues. Please read her post to me. 😘🌹

I am deeply concerned about both her and her husband. Please say prayers for them. 💕🌹

@loaf,

Good day to you in the Rock and Roll City. I have a lot on my mind. I hope you and your
family are doing well this summer please stay cool and safe. 😘🌹😎

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