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Beyond Reacting

Remembering to pause and take a breath before we react, can shift the energy of the outcome.

We have all had the experience of reacting in a way that was less than ideal upon hearing bad news, or being unfairly criticized, or being told something we did not want to hear. This makes sense because when our emotions are triggered, they tend to take center stage, inhibiting our ability to pause before we speak. We may feel compelled to release the tension by expressing ourselves in some way, whether it’s yelling back at the person yelling at us, or rushing to deliver words of comfort to a friend in trouble. However, there is much to be said for teaching ourselves to remember to pause and take a deep breath before we respond to the shocks and insults that can come our way in life.

For one thing, our initial response is not always what’s best for us, or for the other people involved. Reacting to childish rage with childish rage will only escalate the negativity in a situation, further ensnaring us in an undesirable dynamic. Similarly, when we react defensively, or simply thoughtlessly, we often end up feeling regret over our words or actions. In the end, we save ourselves a lot of pain when we take a deep breath and really tune in to ourselves, and the other person, before we respond. This doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t say anything, although in some cases, that may be the best option.

Some situations require a fairly immediate response, but even just a moment of grounding ourselves before we do so can help enormously. The next time you find yourself wanting to react, try to pause, and in that pause, take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the floor, the air on your skin, and listen for a response to arise within you, rather than just going with the first thing that pops into your head. You may find that in that moment, there is the potential to move beyond reaction and into the more subtle and creative realm of response, where something new can happen. 😎🌹

@sheba2011

Hi in hot Oz from hot in the ‘burgh – sunny and around 90 today.🌞🔥 One more day and we should cool down. Glad you are feeling better. 😊 Take it easy today so you don’t get a relapse.

Getting ready to head out to my SIL’s for the afternoon and evening. My niece and her family are in from Georgia so we will have dinner with them. Figured I better say hi now because I’m not sure what time I will get home. Mom is hanging in there.🤗

@kittengirl,

@ Sheba2011, Good Day to you and your family. I hope your sinus headache is gone. The day here is cloudy but very hot. I did a little yard work yesterday, I mean very little. Too hot for everything else, I think I lost two pounds in sweat.

Cherie,

Please stay safe and cool in S. Cali miss you and the children. 😘😎

@shoelady60,

Good afternoon in the ‘burgh. First how are you and how is your mom? If you are real
busy just post when you can. 😎Oz is hitting 95 degrees today. Good grief.

Take it easy and I pray everyone is back to normal. 😘💕

@toberkins,

Good Morning in California I hope this is a cool day for you and hubby. 😎🌹
I see and hear about all the wildfires with everything else going on just stay safe.

@taci,

Good morning in S California how are you? Taci what you posted yesterday was
hilarious 😂. The Yams I never laughed so hard. I am laughing with you not at you.

No worries give me a day or so and I will help you with those Yams. 😜😎

My sinus headache is under control. I feel so much better now. I shut everything off
took a nice Korres Shower and went to sleep. Oh guess what was on my doorsteps early
today my Heidi Daus early B-Day Stash so far I love them. I will show you what hubby
brought me just a little birthday peep. 🤣😎

Heidi Daus “Estate Splendor” Crystal Earrings
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Heidi Daus “Estate Splendor” Crystal Link Bracelet
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I have them in the Golden. 😎 Will leave a feedback in a couple of days.

Taci Happy Trails to you. 🌹

@oodiebom,

Good day in Georgia. 😎😘How are things today for you and hubby? I have read all
your posts and it looks like one day at a time. 🌹

I am glad you were able to get transportation to and from Rehab and I am glad your
husband is healing. Oodie the treadmill looks nice. 😎 I hope you are eating and sleeping
alright. This is the first time in a long time you are not cleaning pun intended I just wish
it was not under these circumstances. 😘💕I know you are very concerned about about
your husband. I hope the food gets better and your husband will eat more. 💕

FitQuest Ultra-Thin Walking Treadmill
711-652

Oodie is this the Treadmill you are looking at? I love it and the fact you can store it under
a bed is great. 😜

Oodie sending positive vibes that things will go better moving forward. 😘💕🌹

@ddshoppy,

Good morning in S. Cali I do hope all is well with you and your family have not heard
from you in a while. Stay safe and cool. 😎🌹

Have fun in the summertime. 😎

@xango,

Good day in Florida. 😎😘I am still thinking about your homemade pasta. That knock at the
door will be and Oodiebom I would so love to taste your Pasta. 😘😎💕

Make it a cool day in Florida and stay safe. I am still masking up here in OZ I am not taking
any chances. The Telly is scary to watch these days.

@defg,

Good day in Maryland how are you? Enjoy this day with your husband. 😎

Oz is very warm stay cool.

@loaf,

Happy Summer dear friend you are missed. 😘😎💕

Dolly Parton See Ya Tomorrow right here on HSN. 😎

My fellow Tennessee Girl. 🌹

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