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SHEBA THE TULIPS ARE BEAUTIES . WE HAVE ALOT OF POWER WASHING GOING ON IN THESE HERE WOODS . DECK AND LOWER PATIO . I HOPE THE TREES ARE DONE MAKEING A MESS.ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD .

Denying Your Feelings

Denying your feelings is not only unhealthy for the mind and body – it may also rob you of valuable information you could be learning about yourself.

Dealing with powerful emotions can be challenging, especially when we are going through chaotic, sad, or cruel experiences in our lives. Often, it can seem like we have only two options for dealing with our feelings so they don’t become too overwhelming. We may let our feelings out in an immediate and visceral way, or we may bottle them up by suppressing our emotions inside our bodies. Most people make the second choice, repressing their feelings in an attempt to deny them. The truth is that there are many positive ways to deal with emotions, and experiencing your negative feelings doesn’t have to constitute a negative experience. Denying your feelings is not only unhealthy for the mind and the body, but it may also rob you of valuable information you could be learning about yourself and your life. Suppressing your emotions can even impede your short-term memory. Acknowledging your feelings can help you better understand them and help you recover naturally from change, stress, and grief.

If you find that facing your feelings head on is proving too difficult during times of emotional distress, you may want to explore alternative ways of expressing them. Otherwise, the emotions you deny could morph into unconscious anger or self-hatred. Expressing your thoughts to friends or family can be helpful. If you don’t feel ready to share them, try giving them words by writing down what you are feeling. Give whatever you are feeling simple words like “livid” or “angry” or “excited” You can also funnel your feelings into a creative outlet, physical exercise, or chores. Even just accepting and speaking your feelings out loud to yourself can be a healing release. In releasing intense emotions, it is most beneficial to acknowledge the feelings, allow yourself to feel them, and let the feelings go. Those who are willing to experience and release their feelings without judgment also find that their lives become less stressful. Breathing deeply, going for a long walk, or doing a constructive task can help you respond to your feelings in a healthy way.

While burying negative or uncomfortable feelings can numb the pain, it also may inevitably dull your ability to experience your more positive and pleasurable feelings. You may find yourself afraid to open up in the future for fear of getting hurt. The feelings we deny aren’t limited to anger and sadness. Suppressing our happiness or excitement can be just as unhealthy. In learning how to express your intense emotions in a healthy way, you are giving yourself the freedom to fully experience the more joyful emotions that come with being alive.

@loaf,

Thank you Loaf for your prayers. I hope your friend is doing better and Loaf you
are a great friend. ♥ I know you love Tulips Loaf enjoy these. 🙂

SHANNON FOX

“I’m like a kid in a candy shop at HSN! I’m surrounded by all the best jewtelry, shoes, makeup, fashion and food. My dream job!”

For the past 20 years, this L.A. native has been entertaining television audiences as a TV show host and star of national commercials. Shannon is that girlfriend who is forever trying new products and adventures and calling to tell you about how great they are. She fancies herself an amateur gourmet cook and proudly holds the top score in her family on Dance Revolution.

@kittengirl,

I hope you are getting some rest. Has it calmed down yet? Have the Mother Cat been
seen yet? You have my prayers that all is well. Please take care of yourself too. 🙂

Cherie,

Thanks for your insights. My SIL was wondering about the Gamma Rays and I was a little
confused he is dong fine.

I am very concerned about Mcpoopoo that is just me. What did your hubby sing to you
today I think that is so cute when he does that. 🙂 I can see you smiling from ear to ear. ♥

Well hello summer I hope the kids have a lot of fun. Here’s to a S. Cali Summer. ♥

@loaf,

I love it. I am stunned I am so LOL! Wow! Loaf you sly fox you. Loaf your post
have me cracking up and I love it. ♥ Sheba had another dream about Ewan an actor.♥
I’ve had a crush on him for 20 years. I’m safe I doubt if he ever comes to OZ.

It’s nice to dream. ♥ Loaf what interesting friends you have. 🙂

“The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, the carbon in our apple pies were made in the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of starstuff.” ~ Carl Sagan

SHEBA YOU MADE A VERY REFRESHING DRINK FOR US THE GALLERIES ARE GREAT . DID I TELL YOU I HAVE A FRIEND WHOS HUSBAND IS 9 YEARS YOUNGER . SHE CALLS HERSELF A COUGAR LOL. THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER OVER 20 YEARS . SHES IS A BEAUTY THOUGH HE IS HANDSOME .I HAVE ANOTHER FRIEND HER HUSBAND IS 8 YEARS OLDER . I ALSO HAVE A FRIEND WHO DIVORCED YEARS AGO AND CHOOSES NEVER TO REMARRY . LOL. BUT A GUY WHO IS10 YEARS YOUNGER HAS BEEN IN HER LIFE FOR YEARS . SHE COOKS HIM DINNER AND HE WILL DO SOME LANDSCAPEING FOR HER .OVER 25 YEARS THEY HAVE BEEN JUST FRIENDS ITS A LONG STORY BUT HE IS MORE LIKE A BROTHER TO HER . AS FOR HIM I THINK HE WOULD MARRY HER IF HE COULD . HE DOES NOT LIVE WITH HER . SHE IS VERY INDEPENDENT .WHEN THE COUGAR AND I ARE OUT SHOPPING HER HUBBY WIL CALL HER . HI HONEY WHAT YA DOING . I AM SHOPPING . LOL I LOVE YOU SEE YOU LATER IS WHAT SHE SAYS .HONEY THIS HONEY THAT .O WHAT CAN I SAY . COUGAR HAS HAD 2 CHEATING HUSBANDS BOTH REMAIN IN HER LIFE THEY LOVE ALL THE KIDS INVOLVED . O LIFES TENDER MOMENTS .NEVER A DULL MOMENT AROUND HERE . LOL.I COULD GO ON AND ON .