Conversation – 15

Lashing Out

Dealing with feelings honestly, as they arise, will avoid a build-up and control a lashing out down the road.

Intense emotions demand intense modes of expression. While there are many outlets for the feelings typically deemed positive, however, there are far fewer methods for constructively coping with anger, frustration, fear, sadness, or stress. Consequently, such feelings can cause us to believe that we are no longer in control of our emotional state. Backed into a mental corner, we may lash out at the first individual we encounter. Most of us will quickly discover that our misdirected outpouring of fury has not relieved the pressure of our pain. Powerful emotions are like the lava in a volcano poised to erupt–held in check with nothing but an eroding layer of calm. Within us lies the power to direct the flood of feeling that surges forth by channeling it into productive, artistic, or laborious pursuits.

Retaking control of our emotions at their height can be difficult because our already negative feelings can convince us that others are deserving of our wrath. But if we consciously look for healthier ways of expressing what we feel, we can both safely dispel our pain and use the energy of that pain to add value to our lives. Anger and sadness, for example, can become the inspiration that induces us to dedicate ourselves to bringing about the change we wish to see in the world. If we act rather than react, we can become effective agents of positive transformation. When we channel our frustration or feelings of stress into outside-the-box thinking and proactive exploits, we are more apt to discover solutions to the issues that initially left us stymied. And if we view fear as a signal that we need to reexamine our circumstances rather than a cue to flee, we may gain new and unexpected insight into our lives.

Channeling your emotions into constructive action can also prevent you from engaging in cyclical rumination in which you repeatedly relive the situation, event, or expectation that originally sparked your feelings in your mind’s eye. Since you are focused on a goal, even if your ambition is merely to better understand yourself, your pain is no longer being fed by your intellectual and emotional energy and quickly ebbs away. You not only avoid lashing out at others, but you also actively take part in your own healing process while honestly acknowledging and honoring your feelings.

Most of these are mine.

@bichon18,

This is one of the ways you can put a pin on a Heidi Daus Cord. ♥

I have the large pumpkin pin Heidi’s son is wearing and I love it.

I have to say these are my favorite collection of Heidi Daus Pins. ♥

Let’s take a walk through the Heidi Daus Gallery. ♥ I have most of what is in this
picture with Heidi. ♥

Cherie,

Good Morning how are things in Cali? My daughter sent me pics of where she is and it
is beautiful. My kids come and go from Cali all the time. One daughter lived in SF for years
and one lived in New York City for 7 years. Kids have traveled all over the world. So I get pics
saying I am in S. Cali and I just go alright have fun. Kids do not have kids yet. So their world is
so busy they don’t stay put for long it’s always on a plane somewhere and that is mostly
because of their careers and jobs. I taught them young live your life while you are healthy
and can enjoy every bit of it. I do enjoy my life I just don’t go like I use too.

Flowers are still here I think we will have another freeze in a few days and that will be it.
I have a feeling this is going to be a cold winter all this funny weather is saying something.
Cherie you and hubby enjoy your day have fun decorating with the kids this weekend.

Enjoy Cherie you will need this with kids and the Halloween decorations. 🙂

@loaf,

Enjoy your day with your MIL and I hope your friends are doing better. 🙂

@bichon18,

Good Morning and have a great Friday. This is for you and hubby. I brought Heidi Daus
Dragonfly Pin. I am going nuts over the coral jacket. I have three all I need is this coral one.
Oh Heidi sure knows her stuff. ♥ Of course I am going to get it.. ♥ Chilly day but it is so nice.

Enjoy a cup and have a good day.

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