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@bassetbabe

Of course you can join in prayers for Meme. ♥ I hate to see anyone go through
what she is going through. All I know is what she wrote on this Thread.

My heart goes out to her. ♥

Dear lord I see she has posted here.

I know I posted here but it must have logged me out.

Meme,You are so very welcome .I cannot imagine how you feel but please know you stay in my thoughts and prayers.You can contact me any time you are able.
I pray God will give you the strength you need plus comfort your heart .Prayers for those you love .Still praying for that miracle.(((((HUGS)))))))))

Cherie,Yes,I am still up but I hope you are resting by now…Sounds like you will be getting a house full of love if hubby gets what he wants.I know each day with them will be a pleasure.(smile)

I know what you mean about the loss still feeling so fresh.It seems like yesterday when we were loving 6 bassets and loss of each got harder.But the love we got was worth it,as I know yours was…We had 3 of ours 13 yrs,2 for 12 and 1 for only about 3 yrs..How we ever took care of 6 is beyond me now but I guess love was the key.

Hope you sleep good.I think I will give it another try soon.

Sheba and Basset, thank you both so much. I feel helpless and lost. Knowing that others are praying for us and supporting me really does make me feel some better. Please continue to pray for me. This is the most difficult time of my life.

I am only able to face each day knowing that God is GREATER than the highs and lows in my life.

Oh Sheba …. Cherie’s husband like Bassetbabe’s has always said that too (three). My husband and I both grew up with Kitties and Big dogs. When we first met we both had our own Black labs. Mine passed by the time we got married and I moved in; we then enjoyed His for 3 yrs. We rescued a beautiful Bullmastiff / Pitbull as a puppy like the one shown. Never dreaming that In 2 years that pup would grow to look identical to the large one in the picture! Our family was Blessed with12 years of pure Love and Devotion. Hubby wants a small puppy dog and a few more kittens right now…. He’s too much. Night-nite Sheba♥ …. Night All

@bassetbabe … I see We are both having another long night. Thank You for your Kind words on our Loss that still feels like yesterday.

@mcpoopoo … This weekend Cherie is putting in her “time” cause the Next 2 weeks are going to be set aside for Family, Friends, and Food Celebrations. EEk …Do you live in the Arctic? How do you stay warm?

Sheba,I hope it is OK if I join you in your special prayer for Meme.

What a very beautiful picture,1 of my favorite I have seen.Makes me feel so safe and calm just looking at it.(smile)

I sure do miss Loaf and hope to see her soon.

Mcpoopoo,How good to talk to you.Your temps are so cold.BRRRRR and make sure you bundle up and stay warm…It is so nice getting to know you too..I love the holidays too,my favorite time of yr…Hope you sleep good and have a great weekend.(smile)

Cherie,Here I am up late again.We watched football,then Hallmark Christmas movies and I am still wide awake.

So sorry about your dog you lost and I hope your elderly cat still has many more good yrs and times with you…What a precious group hug.(smile)

Sheba,My hubby often says that about liking pets more than most people.LOL…Hope your loved ones are doing much better.)((((((HUGS))))))

Prayers and good night wishes for each of you.

Sheba,I think the white is my favorite.So very pretty.

Sheba,Thank you so much.My heart goes out for her too.I have only gotten brief messages but he is home with her,so I figure she is busy,plus so sad.

Thank you so much for the beautiful songs,prayers and messages for her.

Peace Out Peeps! I want to say a special prayer for Meme. ♥

Take a little trip around the way. ♥

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