Conversation – 15

Happy Thanksgiving Heidi Daus I will have more treasures from you this week.♥

Cherie I know you are tired but joyfully happy with your family.:)

Acknowledging Our Pain

Sometimes the motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of ourself.

Some people seem called to help others, often from very early on in their childhoods, responding to the needs of family members, strangers, or animals with a selflessness that is impressive. Often, these people appear to have very few needs of their own, and the focus of their lives is on rescuing, helping, and healing others. While there are a few people who are truly able to sustain this completely giving lifestyle, the vast majority has needs that lie beneath the surface, unmet and often unseen. In these cases, their motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of themselves that is starving for the kind of love and attention they dole out to those around them on a daily basis. For any number of reasons, they are unable to give themselves the love they need and so they give it to others. This does not mean that they are not meant to be helping others, but it does mean that they would do well to turn some of that helping energy within.

One problem with the rescuer model is that the individual can get stuck in the role, always living in crisis mode at the expense of inner peace and personal growth. Until the person resolves their own inner dramas, they play them out in their relationships with others, drawn to those who need them and often unable to acknowledge their own needs or get them met. In the worst-case scenario, they enable the other person’s dilemma by not knowing when to stop playing the rescuer and allow the person to figure it out on their own. However, if the rescuer finds the strength to turn within and face the needy aspects of their own psyche, he or she can become a model of empowerment and a true source of healing in the world.

Some signs that you or someone you love may need to rescue the rescuer within are inner burnout from overgiving; underlying resentment; an inability to admit to having needs of one’s own; and an unwillingness to be vulnerable. Help comes when we allow ourselves to admit we need it, acknowledging our humanity and our wholeness by acknowledging our pain. The understanding we gain in the process will naturally inform and inspire our ability to help those in need to do the same.

Straight Up – Paula Abdul

Lost in a dream;
I don’t know which way to go.
A-let me say if you are all that you seem,
Then baby, I’m movin’ way too slow.
I’ve been fooled before;
Wouldn’t like to get my love caught in the slammin’ door.
How about some information, please?
Straight up, now tell me ,
Do you really wanna love me forever,
Oh, oh, or am I caught in hit and run?
Straight up, now tell me,
Is it gonna be you and me together,
Oh, oh, oh, or are you just havin’ fun
Time’s standing still waiting for some small clue.
I keep getting chills when I think your love is true.
I’ve been a fool before;
Wouldn’t like to get my love caught in the slammin’ door.
How about some information, please?
Straight up, now tell me ,
Do you really wanna love me forever,
Oh, oh, or am I caught in hit and run?
Straight up, now tell me,
Is it gonna be you and me together,
Oh, oh, oh, or are you just havin’ fun
You are so hard to read.
You play hide and seek with your true intentions.
If you’re only playin’ games, I’ll just have to say:
A b-b-b-bye, b-b-b-b-bye.
Do, do you love me, do you love me, baby?
Do, do you love me, do you love me, a hey baby?
Do, do you love me, do you love me, baby?
Do, do you love me, do you love me, a-tell me baby!
I’ve been fooled before;
Wouldn’t like to get my love caught in the slammin’ door.
How about some information, please?
Straight up, now tell me ,
Do you really wanna love me forever,
Oh, oh, or am I caught in hit and run?
Straight up, now tell me,
Is it gonna be you and me together,
Oh, oh, oh, or are you just havin’ fun
Straight up, now tell me ,
Do you really wanna love me forever,
Oh, oh, or am I caught in hit and run?
Straight up, now tell me,
Is it gonna be you and me together,
Oh, oh, oh, or are you just havin’ fun

Rainy Days And Mondays – The Carpenters

Talkin’ to myself and feelin’ old
Sometimes I’d like to quit
Nothin’ ever seems to fit
Hangin’ around
Nothin’ to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down
What I’ve got they used to call the blues
Nothin’ is really wrong
Feelin’ like I don’t belong
Walkin’ around
Some kind of lonely clown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down
Funny, but it seems I always wind up here with you
Nice to know somebody loves me
Funny, but it seems that it’s the only thing to do
Run and find the one who loves me (the one who loves me)
What I feel has come and gone before
No need to talk it out (talk it out)
We know what it’s all about
Hangin’ around (hangin’ around)
Nothin’ to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down
Funny, but it seems that it’s the only thing to do (only thing to do)
Run and find the one who loves me
What I feel has come and gone before
No need to talk it out
We know what it’s all about
Hangin’ around (hangin’ around)
Nothin’ to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down
Hangin’ around (hangin’ around)
Nothin’ to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get
Me down

Time to start moving.

Hello Wendy. ♥

You are so welcome Mouse. 🙂 I want to say Happy Thanksgiving to you and your
family. 🙂

I hope you can enjoy the season. ♥ Have some Cider. 🙂

Cherie have a great time. 🙂 Here you will need this for energy. 🙂
I bet you will sleep like a baby tonight. ♥

Enjoy the day Cherie. ♥

Sheba,
The arrangement is so pretty. Thank you. I think that is great that your do those things that are so good for the body and soul. There is so much strength within when these areas of your life are given attention. I believe everything just falls into place when these things done. It is so healthy. Keeping your mind free from negativity was always so good for me. I think it keeps the clutter from a healthy mind. I hope your Mom is ok. It just takes time. My prayers are with her. Mom’s are special. 🙂 I will be going to my daughters for Thanksgiving. I sure love my family. It is so nice. I hope your Thanksgiving is beautiful just like you. ♡♡♡