Conversation – 15

Coming Back to Center in a Relationship

In a long-term relationship, it is often necessary to get back to basics and come back to center with each other.

Anyone in a long-term relationship knows that the dance of intimacy involves coming together and moving apart. Early in a relationship, intense periods of closeness are important in order to establish the ground of a new union. Just as a sapling needs a lot more attention than a full-grown tree, budding relationships demand time and attention if they are to fully take root. Once they become more established, the individuals in the union begin to turn their attention outward again, to the other parts of their lives that matter, such as work, family, and friendships. This is natural and healthy. Yet, if a long-term relationship is to last, turning towards one another recurrently, with the same curiosity, attention, and nurturance of earlier times, is essential.

In a busy and demanding world full of obligations and opportunities, we sometimes lose track of our primary relationships, thinking they will tend to themselves. We may have the best intentions when we think about how nice it would be to surprise our partner with a gift or establish a weekly date night. Yet somehow, life gets in the way. We may think that our love is strong enough to survive without attention. Yet even mature trees need water and care if they are to thrive.

One of the best ways to nourish a relationship is through communication. If you feel that a distance has grown between you and your partner, you may be able to bridge the gap by sharing how you feel. Do your best to avoid blame and regret. Focus instead on the positive, which is the fact that you want to grow closer together. Sometimes, just acknowledging that there is distance between you has the effect of bringing the relationship into balance. In other cases, more intense effort and attention may be required. You may want to set aside time to talk and come up with solutions together. Remember to have compassion for each other. You’re in the same boat together and trying to maintain the right balance of space and togetherness to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. Express faith and confidence in each other, and enjoy the slow dance of intimacy that can resume between the two of you.

Sporto® Maria 3 Water-Resistant Tall Boot
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Sporto® Samantha Waterproof Suede Bootie with Tassels
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Cherie you have excellent taste! These Sporto are on sale right here on HSN. ♥

@taci,

I would love a walk in the Woods or Forest in Cali. ♥ These are Sporto Boots I would be
sporting. ♥ Especially in the rain. 🙂

@loaf,

Close I was a cheerleader my entire time in High School. 🙂 I wish I felt like that today.
Sheesh the rain and the pain of the time change is affecting me. I am typing with one
eye open. 🙂 I feel like I got hit my a truck. This too shall pass. LOL!

How are you today? How are the kids? Let me get you something warm and I hope
your weather is better. ♥ I love the Rock and Roll Capital. ♥

Sherri Pulie
Sherri Pulie was in pain, suffering from yet another migraine headache. She applied ice packs and plastic baggies full of ice to the pain points, but struggled with their cumbersome and uncomfortable shapes. She closed her eyes and envisioned a better way…more like a cap with ice cubes built-in. As her migraine subsided, she started making plans for The Headache Hat.

American Dreams The Headache Hat
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My daughter gets migraine headaches and she is ordering this. ♥ I want to know it works.
I get headaches when stressed. This looks interesting. ♥

Cherie,

I needed to hear that. I found out some interesting news on my SIL and today it is
cold and raining. Lucky me. 🙂 Thanks for trying to make me feel better.

I know I will see them all again as long as I remember them. I feel lousy today due
to the time change. This is new to me it has never affected me like this. What is going
on in the Universe I will snap out of it soon. Like within an hour. LOL!

Cherie have a great day. Those shoes look great on the Runway but not in REAL Life.

Please let us know how your project turns out once you get started and finished. I would
love to see your daughter’s face. ♥ You know she will be happy. 🙂

More coffee for me and I will get on my treadmill to shock my brain out this fog of the
time change. 🙂 Have a great day. ♥

Cherie I have been up since 4:00 a.m. CST.

I feel like death warmed over. Oh that time change hit me today! This is my feet attire
for today. ♥ I need to snap out of it whatever it is.

@taci,

I love Sporto ♥ Yep I do have a couple of pairs. Tassel included. Naturally I have a little
heel on it.

It is raining here and cold so no walk today for me. I am feeling that time change and for
some reason it never bothered me. I have been dragging all day. Shizzle!

Hey Sheba,
Hey good looking count me in. I would love to go! Count me in! 🙂

Good Morning Loaf,
Happy Monday. How was your weekend? Mine was quite. It looks like it’s going to be better weather today. Tassels are so cute. I need to get some. Oh….I do have a necklace. I forgot! Well have a great week. Loaf….please try and stay out ou trouble. ♡ Lol!