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pookie123
02.08.25 9:26 PM

Hi OOdie. I had an Uncle in his nineties who had a bad knee and refused surgery. He eventually became wheelchair bound. He lived alone in a two story house. So, his children arranged for 24 hour care in his home by two male aides. They worked in 12 hour shifts, so one of them was always there. Your Association won’t let you have a live in, but you can have two aides in 12 hour shifts. You are going to have to have someone when you bring Hubby home, and you are going to have to have them 24 hrs. a day.
Also, something you might want to look into, a Concierge Doctor. I recently got one and it was the best thing I’ve done for myself. No more waiting for appointments, available 24 hours a day, no sitting in waiting rooms for hours, prescriptions filled as soon as you call. No more dealing with Nurse Ratchets and nasty office people. And they get all of your records and paperwork together for you.
My Aunt was in an Assisted Living Facility and was eventually bounced around from Hospital to Rehab. They killed her. She weighed 54lbs. when she finally got out of the last Rehab. She went back to Assisted Living, and I put her on Hospice. When she died no one was with her when I got there, I got on the phone and called for Hospice or anyone of the aides, I demanded a Priest, the non-sectarian Priest was the only one who showed up and he stayed with me for three hours while I held her and talked to her while she died.
I worry for you and your Hubby. You are trying so hard Oodie, but it seems like every day in that place brings more trouble for him. Take care.

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- OODIEBOM
- 02.09.25 5:50 AM
Hi Pookie. Thank you for your concern. I am a little bit ahead of you. First off I will need to redo an entire bathroom to make it handicapped accessible. This will mean a walk-in shower, bars that can go around a toilet though I do know there are wheelchairs that make this accessible as well. I will be changing our vinyl floor to something that is waterproofed etc.. Vanity will be lower and there will be an extra cabinet for storage.

Next on the list is the Master Bedroom. Currently we have a queen bed and two night stands. I will be saying sayonora to the queen and in it’s place two twins. One will be a hospital twin so that he can be closer to the floor in case he falls. He would love the surgery on his knees, but two orthopedists turned us down because hubby could not recall the date or year when the doctor asked. If he had a computer in front of him, he would have that knowledge. The room only has a clock. There is nothing with a date or year. Funny, the hospital had an erase board with all that info. Also, one leg is deformed due to his falling out of bed which he made a huge joke of. Both physicians felt that he would be under anesthesia too long and though his heart is good, it may not be that way while they operate. He has tried to get out of bed on his own and the rehab states he fell. Well, the aides know differently. Most of the time it is to use the bathroom, however, when the rehab is too cold he wants to get his Sherpa out of the closet.

This has been quite a learning experience for me. We still have our homes North and I feel that we will eventually take a ride if he is able. After the last two hurricanes, not so sure if Florida is a good idea. Our home in Ct. will need a chair lift since it is a raised ranch. I may look for a ranch home once we get there. The other home is actually a small ranch that is not handicapped ready. Unfortunately it will need to be gutted. Also, the hospital leaves a lot to be desired as do the physicians. I have weighed all the points. The good and the bad. I will need to assess hubby’s health before I can make a decision on heading North. I will keep you posted.

Thank you for your concern and for reaching out. Good to know that there are people out there that care.
- TACI
- 02.09.25 2:29 AM
Pook123, Hello! Sage advice for all. Thank you.
- jmc1365
- 02.09.25 1:59 AM
What great advice! I’m sure she will appreciate all your advice!
- pookie123
- 02.09.25 12:36 AM
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