What do you think?
I just thought I’d relay something that happened between me and a so-called ‘friend’ in order to get some feedback and/or opinions.
I spoke to a ‘friend’ on the phone today ( I guess now it was yesterday ) whom I’ve known for eight years. Well, she scolded me for not having sent her a mother’s day card. In the eight years I’ve known her, I’ve NEVER sent her a mother’s day card. When I told her it never crossed my mind because I’d never sent her one before, she said I was being selfish and I should think about other mothers in the world. Of course I’m selfish in that regard; I only have one mother. I think it’s preposterous to send out mother’s day cards to every mother I know. I’d have to send out thirty-five cards to thirty-five different females. Father’s and mother’s days are special days that were created for honoring one’s own parents. It wasn’t intended to be like Christmas, where everybody you know gets a card. I don’t even have that close of a friendship with this female. She’s always been bullying and condescending toward me. Why in the world would I send her a mother’s day card?!
That’s the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. She sounds like one of those females who has to artificially inflate her importance to feel good about herself. After she said that to you, you should have told her to bounce.
Lady for peace I love what you said about true friend ships.That is so true .G.reat advice.
Friends are not bullying and condescending to one another. There may be hurtful things in her own life, yet, the demanding of a card is a bit much .NEVER allow yourself to be obligated to say or do more than which you are comfortable with. True friendships cut sorrows in half and double our joy. They do not put ‘weights and burdens’ on others.
At first, I thought she was kidding. :womansurprised:
I now say, it is time to run away from this friendship. :heart:
I agree with bjspick, no one needs bullying and condescending friends. Time to let that friendship go.
I owned a Hallmark Gold Crown store for years..My business was to sell cards..
I never remember sending Mother’s Day cards to a friend..except one older man I knew well..The poor guy was both Mother and Father to his mentally ill son…The son’s Mom left them high and dry!.He so appreciated a Mother’s Day and Father’s day card…I also sent Father’s Day cards from his son…
I sent Mother’s day cards to my Mom and my Grandmom..I did make the mistake of sending my Mother-in-law one..I was told "I am not your Mother"!..After that day..I tapped her on the shoulder to ask her something or I would tell my Honey or my kids to ask her..I suppose that is just as rude as "demanding" a card??!!
I got Mother’s Day cards from a few of my kid’s friends when they were teenagers..Usually with a note saying "thanks for feeding me"..LOL
I no longer have this business..and I have told my kids to stop sending cards..the prices have gotten way out of hand..I taught them how to choose cards from when they were very young..that the card verse needs to fit the person..they continue to NOT listen to their Mother!..LOL
No one needs bullying and condescending friends.
First, I’d think she’s hurt because she felt her own kids didn’t do much for her. Second, I’d think she’s selfish and third, depending on her age.. I’d think something age rated is happening with her. okay and lastly… sounds like a good relationship to end.
oh.. and fifth.. your Popsicle profile photo is making me hungry.
She sounds like a combative fishwife who just likes to fight.
It would be interesting to know how you left off the conversation with her.
I’ve always believed that Mothers’ Day was for individuals to recognize Their mothers and those who have been ‘Like a mother’ … Same with the fathers’ day, Valentine’s day etc ( Of course I no longer acknowledge Any of the ‘days’ in Any way). If they come up with a Friends’ day. … That might be for your ‘friend.’
Personally, I would lose that friend – Quickly.
Sounds like a lonely person to me grasping at straws for friendship and your the straw. She probably has no ideal about her own behavior toward you and your feelings…..Ronnie
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06.13.15 4:58 AM