GOT SLAMMED WITH SOME UNEXPECTED NEGATIVE NEWS
Today, seemed fine until about 4:30 PM. All of a sudden a phone call came. Not from a family member but someone I ‘thought’ I could trust. I can’t go into details of what was said as it’s too painful. To say I was shocked is an understatement. I didn’t see this one coming. Then I became angry at myself for not seeing it coming. My sisters always said “you’re too quick to trust people”. Actually, that may be partly true. I am cautious. I believe people need a chance to show they are “trustworthy”…and that’s not instant (like instant oatmeal). It take time. The call I received today was someone I’ve known quite a while. It would have been easier if someone would have punched me. This hurts. Thank you for allowing me to vent, You ladies are awesome.:heart::womansad::heart:
:womansadI am very sorry this happened to you, honey.
I still care and I always will:)
May God give you the strength and courage to carry on:)
You are very sweet and kind and that’s what matters:)
Peace and love always:)
Lady4Peace- I just saw your post here today & I sincerely hope you are doing better than when you posted on Friday. I am so sorry to read of what you are going thru. Don’t be angry at yourself for “not seeing it coming” as you put it. I like to see the best in others & I too have been slammed like this. I now believe in Dr Maya Angelou’s saying ” If a person shows you how they are the first time, believe them.” This person I had been close to for over 35 years burned me & I have never forgotten it. I can still cry over it and it happened in “09”. It definitely taught me to be more cautious & much more private with myself. It made me a more closed person. I will never allow anyone to hurt me like that anymore. I found out since “09” this person is with a very controlling man & he didn’t like it that we were so close & that I don’t mince words so he had to basically force her to eliminate me from her life which I think is sick, but now I look at it as her life & some day she will come back crawling & I know I will forgive her but the bond is broken as I would never be able to fully trust her again. It hurt so bad because we were closer than sisters. I loved this friend so much if she would have needed a kidney or a bone marrow transplant , anything I would have stepped up to the plate & right away given it & she threw me away. Yes, it hurt but I rose above it after I realized the truth of “Why” she did what she did. You will find out in time why this person did what they did. Sometimes it take a little time but it all works out in the end & then you will have your ah ha moment & understand that it is not you that has the problem…. best wishes my friend & better days ahead 🙂
There are several more of you wonderful ladies I want to thank for your replies of compassion and care. You ladies are the best. Really, to simply say “thank-you” is an understatement of vast proportions. I’m so appreciative.:heart::heart::heart:
I will be traveling next week for business, so I probably will not be able to post much.
Before I go, I want to say you’re beautiful inside and out. :heart:
Lady4Peace I am so sorry you have been hurt. My heart is willing to share your pain. It is remarkable to see the lengths people will go to just to hurt someone’s heart. I have never understood the mind set of a person who takes pleasure from hurting someone’s heart. To cause emotional pain is the most vile, cruel thing someone can do.
I too would rather someone punch me physically rather than hurt my heart. However, there is no need for either. If there are disagreements or unpleasant things that someone feels they must get off of their chest, even at the expense of others, why not temper it with kindness. I guess if you feel you must speak your mind regardless of the impact your actions will have on others, than you probably lack the ability to recognize kindness or implement the act itself.
One of the real tragedies in a situation like the one you just experienced is that often the person who wounds us the deepest is someone we have come to trust. I too lead with my heart. I have been told by my brother that this is my biggest “fault”. Well, when I stand before the portals of glory to be judged by my Maker, I would rather have Him say “Honey, you were just too trusting” rather than say “My, you were a cynical person while on earth. You had so many opportunities to do good and help lighten the load for others, but your cynicism got in your way.”
The human race is a cruel species, the most cruel of all species. We could learn a lot from our animal companions on earth. They only kill to survive, not for pleasure or joy. Yet some members of the human race slaughter innocent people’s reputation and lives with careless abandon and take great joy in doing so.
Thank goodness I have my “furry friends” to rely on. They are a great comfort when someone has been cruel. I think they are my Maker’s way of providing tangible comfort for me when the hurt I have experienced is just too deep to share with human companions.
Try to take comfort in the fact that you are not the guilty party in this situation. I would much rather be on the receiving end of something so vile and cruel as you described rather than be the one who inflicted it on another. This way, I sleep much better at the end of the day.
God Bless you Lady4Peace. :heart: This too shall pass. :heart: There is a time and season for everything.:heart: We are never stuck in the same situation forever. Even though sometimes it may seem like time has stopped, it marches on. Karma is real. We reap what we sow and I can not help but feel sorry for some people at harvest time!
So sad to hear Lady4Peace…..My pets are and always will be my most loyal friends.
They never tell your secrets, comfort you when your down, and Love you til the end …..:heart::catvery-happy::heart:
Your replies meant so much to me. Your thoughtfulness lifted my heart at a time it needed to be lifted. There for a while I just couldn’t ‘shake it’. I’m still not there yet, but, life goes on. I expect with each passing day the hurt of this whole thing will become less. After reading all your replies, it helped me feel so not alone in all this “yuck” that slammed like a tidal wave. You ladies are the best and I’ll forever remain grateful for you kindness. :heart::heart::heart:
I’m very sorry that your friend that you trusted, broke your heart!! Just be glad that she showed her true colors! !
The late great Author, Writer and Actress Dr. Maya Angelo said this quote; “when people show you who they are believe them”!! JUST DELETE THAT FRIEND OUT OF YOUR LIFE, PERMANENTLY! !
Have A Blessed Day! !!
Sorry this happened. :heart:
I do understand, and I know it hurts. :heart: I am going to say there is a good chance this person has treated others the same way.
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Sorry for the blank space in my previous message. HSN wouldn’t allow my graphic to be used. I just wanted to encourage you and tell you that I feel your pain and hope by now you have had a chance to sort out your feelings and have begun to heal. :heart:
O DEE I TOTATLY AGREE WITH YOU WELL SAID .:heart:
Oh Lady – I can not believe someone would want to hurt you like this. I am so sorry to hear this. Yes, those of us with big hearts tend to be too trusting at times and our hearts can be broken easily because of this. Not knowing the whole story I will not comment any further. I hope this is just a big misunderstanding on the other persons part. In any case, there are many here that like and admire you! It will be the other persons loss.:womanhappy::heart:
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05.25.16 9:29 PM